Chuck is a former Vietnam Era Air Navigator with degrees te History & Economics. Areas of intrest include aviation & military history.
Very first Determine if the Other Person Wants to Converse With You
Wij have all experienced the awkward feeling that occurs when wij are with strangers and there is muffle. Wij want to talk or at least pauze the muffle, and wij keep hoping that the other person will say something. If that person remains silent and embarrassed, what do wij do?
The very first thing is to size up the surroundings. If you are on an airplane, te an elevator, sitting te a restaurant or other public place, you have to consider that the other person may not want to engage te conversation.
Effortless Ways to Determine if a Person is Not Interested ter Conversing With You
A clear indicator that a person does not want to engage is if they are occupied te some solitary pursuit. If they are awake but have their eyes closed or are staring intently up or into space they are most likely immersed ter their thoughts and don’t want to be disturbed.
On an airplane, bus or train, if the person is reading, writing, listening to music, working on a laptop, etc. it is a no brainier вЂ“ they don’t want to be bothered. It should also be noted that leaning toward a person to get a better look at what they are reading, writing, viewing on their laptop is impolite and will upset many people.
Similarly, te an elevator, a line at a store or other places like thesis, if the person is fiddling with their smartphone, has ear buds and is listening to music, or doing other things that make them show up occupied and not interested ter social interaction, don’t attempt to initiate conversation.
Despite being open and te public, things like airplane seats, standing slagroom te an elevator, a line at the checkout toonbank ter a store, etc. can be considered private space and you should not assume that the person next to you wants to converse.
Knowing that the space occupied by the person may be considered private space, you should check their figure language to see if the person shows any rente te conversation.
Ways to Determine if the Person Next to You Wants to Converse
On the other arm, the person may be doing nothing. Te this case you have to attempt to determine if they just want to be left alone with their thoughts or if they are like you, feeling awkward and wanting to talk.
If you can’t tell from their assets language, attempt to commence a conversation. Smile. Say hello. Comment on the weather or other thing that the two of you are momentarily sharing te common.
If their face lights up and they look interested, then you can most likely commence conversing.
However, if they give you a brief ineens reaction and then resume staring ahead, they very likely want to be left alone.
Private and Public Social Gatherings are a Different Matter
Social gatherings, parties, business functions, networking events, etc. are places where those te attendance share some common rente and come looking to engage with others all of whom share at least one thing ter common which gives them a ondergrond for engagement.
Now, if you are at a social function or a business networking function, the assumption is that people have come to meet and talk with other people.
However, just because everyone has come to meet and talk with other people, doesn’t mean that they are necessarily convenient with meeting and talking with strangers.
A good way to pauze the ice is to walk up and say вЂњhiвЂќ. Introduce yourself and ask them what they do for a living or make a pithy comment like, вЂњnice partyвЂќ or вЂњdon’t you hate being ter a slagroom total of strangers?вЂќ. With a little practice you can determine which comments are good ice breakers and which are not.
Another thing to do is to observe other people who show up to mix and embark conversations with ease. Learn their technics and use those that you feel convenient with.
Be a Good Listener & Let the Other Person Talk
The final thing to reminisce is that the best conversationalists are good listeners.
If, merienda you get the conversation going, shut up and let the other person talk while you listen. If you do this, you will be remembered spil a master of good conversation.