Texting and Dating: How Much Is Too Much, A Little Nudge

March 16,

How many times have you said the following to your friends, or have they said something like this to you?

Wij were talking online, and then he asked for my number to make it lighter to schedule the date. Well, it’s bot a week, and all he does is text with no date te view!

I don’t know… I guess I pictured him differently ter my head from all his texts.

Or, how about this one?

OMG—I love this damsel! We’ve bot texting every day, and I’m indeed falling for hier.

It happens all the time… someone puts his or hier phone number down on a dating webpagina or app and says, “Text me” or “Reach out to mij.” Does it indeed make communicating lighter? Isn’t it just spil effortless to check your email or your Tinder/JSwipe/Hinge spil it is a text? (Okay, maybe it’s not finta spil effortless, but still…) And indeed, is there a need to text before the date, except to confirm the day before? (Very significant: do this) My recommendation is simply to exchange numbers a day or two prior to the date so you can 1) confirm and Two) voeling each other the day of te case something goes awry (you need to biombo, you’re running late, etc.). Spil a side note—and I know I’ve said this before—if you’re cancelling the day of the date, especially if it’s within a few hours of when you’re supposed to meet each other, please do have the decency to call.

Besides the never-ending text relationship that might form with no date ter look, by texting (or emailing) too much before the date, you run the risk of building a false impression of this person that may not equate to what he or she is like te verdadero life. Wij often have a tendency to share things behind the screen that wij may not expose to someone ter the skin until much straks. The Fresh York Postbode even has a name for this—premature escalation.

The article says this: “It’s a trend we’ve coined ‘premature escalation’… since our entire world is so instant now, people can craft entire personas through their slew of texts… by the time you meet your playmate for an contemporáneo date, you’ve built up this entire photo and fantasy ter your head of who you think they are, and then they turn out to be totally different.” Sound franco?

What’s the solution then? If you’re intent on texting before a date, then attempt to keep thesis texts to a ondergrens, with the purpose of determining the logistics of the date. Whitney Casey, a love accomplished for Match.com agrees: “If your date starts sending you ‘How wasgoed your day?’ texts, it’s on you to cut him or hier off — nicely.” Telling something spil plain spil this should do the trick: “Hey—I’m not indeed a phat texter, but I’m indeed looking forward to observing you on Wednesday!”

Now, I’m not telling all texting is bad. Ter fact, I love texting! It’s fine when you’re ter a relationship to check ter with someone during the day or to send a sweet inwards joke. But just spil I would never advise anyone to “friend” a potential date on Facebook before the very first date, I would strongly advise you to just set up the date and go from there. The sooner you meet, the sooner you’ll know if there’s chemistry. And then text away!

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