Yeah, Friday NIght Smackdown.

Sharilee Swaity writes on family and marriage issues on hier blog, 2nd Chance Love. She also written a book on the topic of remarriage.

Wij are Opposites

My hubby and I are opposites. Without a doubt, it’s true. But wij are blessed. Don’t believe mij? Ask my sister. Or the kids. Or the neighbours. (They used to hear us fighting.)

My spouse and I met ter that most modern of ways: online, on the Internet. Wij were both “kleintje of looking,” with one foot dipped cautiously and tepidly into the pools of dating, both still too jumpy from our prior relationships to pursue the possibility of a love rente too passionately.

Te fact, after I sent a “smile” te his way on that stupid matchmatching webpagina, I swore I would swear off Internet dating sites forever. It wasgoed wasting my time, which could have bot spent any number of more productive ways, like cleaning my house or going to the gym.

When he smiled back and left a little note, I wasgoed intrigued. What wasgoed someone 1000 miles away doing responding to my advertisement? And he actually looked natural, and not slightly creepy.

Dating Online Is Risky

At Very first, Wij Seemed to Have A loterijlot Te Common

Our very first conversation did not expose the fact that wij are opposites. At very first sound, wij seemed to have a good overeenkomst te common. Wij were both believers. Wij both worked hard. Wij both loved kids. Ter fact, for that very first month, wij actually talked for hours on the phone. I had not talked this much to a boy since being a tiener! I wasgoed high, thrilled. All my defenses were going out the wegens, and I hadn’t even met him yet!

And I did not know yet that wij were opposites. That would come after a few conversations. The very first hint of being opposites wasgoed when he talked about his music. He mentioned something about a song by Ozzy Osbourne. I had to check my earpiece to make sure I wasn’t hearing things. “You like mighty metal?” I asked, ter confusion. “How could he? How could I like someone that listened to this music?” I thought, spil I listened to a Johnny Specie song on the radiodifusiĆ³n.

My Hubby Never Misses Wrestling

He Never Misses Wrestling

And then other clues began to emerge. During one of our very first conversations, he said that he wasn’t a big sports fan. I wasgoed elated, of course. I mean, how often can you find a boy that doesn’t like sports, like mij?

But then, one Friday, he mentioned how he had bot watching “Friday Night Smackdown.”

“Sorry?” I asked, meekly. My phone seemed to be acting so funny lately.

“Yeah, Friday NIght Smackdown. I never miss it.”

“Oh,” I sighed. “I thought you said you weren’t indeed a sports fan.”

“Oh, I’m not, truly,” he replied. “I’ve just always observed wrestling, since I wasgoed a kid. It’s my soap opera, you know.”

And then a few more hints . cracks te the polished veneer of our mythical togetherness: I wrote him a letterteken and he calls, telling he’s not truly much writing. I tell him of my love for nature and he sounds astonished. I mention cats and he sounds disinterested, even stating he’s not indeed an “animal person.”

And some more serious differences: he drinks. I don’t. He smokes. I don’t. I go to church. He doesn’t. I’m lonely. He’s sociable. I’ve had lots of jobs. He’s had one since he wasgoed twenty-one. I’m indecisive. He’s a rock.

It went on and on . maybe it wouldn’t work. Wij were very different. Wij were opposites.

Vereiste Love Cats

He Helped Mij Stir

My hubby continued on ter our Internet dating, ter spite of our differences. Ter spite of my concerns. I had just finished a contract up North and had signed for another one at a different schoolgebouw. I had lived ter his city before and made the leap to stir to his city. Wij had known each for only a brief time but the timing seemed right. I knew his city and lived there before, years ago. It wasgoed either budge now, or wait a year.

I determined to budge. I wasgoed startled out of my wits but wij made it toebijten. Te fact, my future spouse even flew te a plane 1000 miles to come and meet mij, and assist mij ter my budge. He came, he helped mij pack, and wij drove the 1000 miles te a pickup truck and a U-Haul trailer with back lights that didn’t work. What a seƱor!

While wij were travelling, the concerns of our incompatibility seemed even more poignant. Wij were strangers, virtually, and every difference seemed to be a glaring zit staring mij te the face. A blemish on this supposedly excellent love. But wij ventured on.

The tour huis wasgoed joy and after that, wij dated for a while. During that time, wij fought about almost everything. I had rented a slagroom with his family, and so wij were ter closer quarters than wij should have bot. Wij even broke up for a few months, both wooed wij could not make a go of it. It wasgoed overduidelijk wij had nothing te common and when I broke it off with him, I had wondered how wij had everzwijn gotten involved.

From Our Cross-Country Journey

I Would Google, &quot,My Spouse And I Are Opposites&quot, Into the Laptop

Wij ended up getting back together and getting married after a few months but soon after, the fighting began again. It wasgoed overheen housework, overheen work, overheen the kids, overheen friends, overheen values, overheen how wij would spend our time, overheen what he said, overheen what I said.

Wij are opposites, like I said, and those differences were never so overduidelijk spil ter our very first two years of marriage. Wij came close to divorce fairly a few times. I am telling you, this wasgoed no pretty picture.

I used to sit at the laptop and google, “married to my opposite,” and “my hubby and I are incompatible.” I wasgoed desperate. So wasgoed he.

Wij Went to A Counsellor

During our 2nd year of marriage, wij were fighting so much that I insisted wij talk to someone. Wij needed help and wij needed it now.

The very first place wij went wasgoed to a duo from our church whom my hubby knew and trusted. They are an older duo who had done a fair bit of counselling ter their time. They permitted us to come to their house several times and they listened to both of us.

They displayed mij that i wasgoed getting too hysterical and emotional. They demonstrated my hubby that he wasgoed being harsh. And they did one more thing. They directed us to a professional counsellor. And wij went. She switched our life around.

Wij went to this woman counsellor and wij embarked to learn how to communicate. Wij began to learn what wij needed to do to love the other person. And wij commenced to learn that this marriage wasgoed possible.

Wij were opposites but thesis two opposites could learn to love each other.

Wij Began To Complement Each Other

Our third year of marriage wasgoed the best. Eventually, the things wij learned from our counsellor and our duo friends, and the books wij had bot reading, began to click te. Wij were opposites but that wasgoed okay. I ultimately began to realize that my spouse did not have to be the same spil mij, te order for this relationship to work. Wij could “live and let live. “

And an even better thing began to toebijten. Wij began to learn from one another. Now, I had heard this could toebijten but I hadn’t believed it. But it wasgoed true. Wij actually complemented each other. (And no, that doesn’t mean to tell the other person they have nice hair: that’s mooipraterij.)

The dictionary defines complement spil “Add to (something) ter a way that enhances or improves it, make volmaakt.” And that is what began to toebijten with us. Our differences actually beginning to become our mutual strength and wij began to learn from each other. And it wasgoed a beautiful thing!

How It Works

Spil I said at the beginning, my hubby and I are opposites. Te so many ways. But wij are glad. Here’s how.

Both of our individual strengths combine to make a strong entire. Here are some ways that this has worked:

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