I’ve had a loterijlot of strange dates вЂ“ from the man who dreamed $15,000 from mij so that вЂњwe could commence our life togetherвЂќ (I didn’t) to the one who wasgoed on the mobile phone working across the entire date. The dating spel is an ambiguous one вЂ“ everyone puts on their supposedly best behaviour and it’s up to you to figure out your date’s ulterior motives (if there are any) and why no one else has grabbed them very first.
Here’s a handy guide to some of the bad dates I had and what the warning signs were. Tho’ I make a loterijlot of assumptions about personality here, the basic premise could apply to any date, masculine or female, with some petite differences. Spil a woman, I am writing from that perspective, but I’m sure both sexes have bot guilty of similar conduct.
The Deceptive Homeless Masculine Golddigger
This type of date is very common. You’ll meet him on dating sites or through Meetups or Facebook groups. He’s keen to get began on a date/relationship and he’s very accepting of you and your foibles. On the very first date he will be dressed up to the nines ter his very best (and only) dating uitrusting. It is designed to make you feel that he’s waterput te a loterijlot of effort and that you can be proud of the peacock on your arm. There will be excessive amounts of aftershave sprayed on and lots of flirting and warm conversation.
Across the date, this man comes across spil a caring, empathic and funny person. He truly is fairly an apple and strings up onto your every word вЂ“ you wonder why he’s single and he mentions a few horror stories of dragon women from the past. Beware вЂ“ all women this man dates will be b*tches, including you, even if you end it after just one date.
Spil time goes on and the dating ritual gathers steam, you’ll be puzzled spil to why your dating locations seem rather humdrum, or why he is wiggling his head at the register after the meal when he thinks you are not looking. But he is so caring and thoughtful when around you, you’re willing to compromise a little.
He seems like the ideal uitzicht for a relationship other than the money kwestie, but then you’ll notice another warning sign – that he doesn’t drive (usually waterput down to a past traumatic driving incident and/or the fact that he never learnt how) and a third warning sign is that you’ll never get to see his house or his friends or his life. This is because he can’t afford a car, his friends are homeless bums (if he has any) and he doesn’t want you to see the absolute poverty of the sharehouse he lives ter.
If you’re naГЇve enough to proceed beyond this point, you’ll notice that he has a lotsbestemming of women listed on his phone who are all вЂњfriendsвЂќ. He doesn’t seem to be a player at all and genuinely seems to care about you and about the people te his life вЂ“ what you don’t know is that the women are вЂњcontactsвЂќ for him to use to drum up more business (the business of using women for accommodation, food and money).
You’ll soon get the hint with this man because at some point he won’t be able to pay for himself. There’ll be a catastrophe where he is thrown out of his current accommodation, or he cannot go on a date because he is broke or something will present itself and he’ll have to ask you for a favour and it won’t be a little favour, it will be the kleuter of favour that will leave you scraping your head asking вЂњwhy would he ask mij for that? I’d never ask a date for such a thing!вЂќ
Dump him out of your life spil quickly spil possible is my advice and don’t let him wheedle his way back te again. Thesis types of guys are experts at hustling women for all the things they can’t (or won’t) provide for themselves. They actually hate women at heart and love taking advantage of them.
Mr Magic Fingers
This man seems to suggest a lovely potential relationship when you begin dating him. He’s utter of good conversation, is able to pay his own way and is respectful of you. Overheen the course of a number of dates, he builds you up with flirting and compliments and tells you about his magic fingers (or magic tongue) that have driven all the women he’s dated before mad with excitement and passion. But he’s saving it all especially for you and you’re just going to love it, kindje!
The big uur ultimately arrives, and after weeks of romanticising about your future life together and how he is the one amazing fish left ter the sea that means anything to you, you’ll be keen to attempt out his magic mechanisms.
Firstly, he will commence with something that feels quiebro ordinary and then his magic fingers/magic tongue turn out to be less than thrilling and may even border on being an irritating or painful nightmare. You tell him it would be wonderful if he could just be a bit more gentle or if he could go tighter or concentrate on one particular spotвЂ¦.but he will not listen or pay any attention to your pleadings whatsoever. He’ll just say вЂњwell all the other women liked it this wayвЂќ, and keep on going.
Turns out Mr Magic Fingers merienda pleased ONE woman somewhere and is now living te a past re-enaction of that script spil he’s not bot able to please anyone else since. It is an obsession. He will not listen or consider you at all te bloemperk but will go after his own zakagenda till the very end, to prove to himself that he’s still вЂњgot itвЂќ, even however you disagree.
Often you’ll find that this type of man is not that fantastic but has personality/wit/money to suggest, that’s why he’s bothered with all this magic fingers business te the very first place (he thinks you don’t want him if he doesn’t have frills). The stupid part is that if he treated you like a existente person and lived ter the present ogenblik instead of using you te a desperate attempt to feel youthfull again, he might have had a chance.
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This man presents spil an intellectual man who can read your mind better than most. He’s possibly luxurious, brainy, funny and shows up to have his life together. You’re thrilled that someone can read your mind and offers the possibility of being truly intimate. You indeed like him and the relationship will travel along at a común tempo. Sometimes he will hint that the secret to his success is something more than just himself, there’ll be mention of a religion or organisation which helped him become the man he is today.
Then, when the time is right, he’ll tell you his little secret вЂ“ he’s a Scientologist. You’ll be astonished and interested to hear about this hidden world and he might anxiously tell you all about it. Some of it will make logical sense and some of it will make you wonder if he wasgoed born stupid to believe ter such cr*p. Anyway, life will go on and if you fight back joining Scientology, you’ll detect some disturbing patterns.
Firstly, your Scientologist will embark making assumptions about you, based upon his confidence with the вЂњmind readingвЂќ. You’ll tell him he’s incorrect and his assumptions are not the truth at all, but he won’t listen and will take the attitude that he knows best.
Secondly, you might get to practice some questionable realities at play te his life вЂ“ actual world laws, regulations and rules will not apply ter creating the successful individual/business/empire. He will tell you he lives the reality to create it, that he is determined and persistent (even if it cracks the law or manhandles other people).
Thirdly, when something physical ails you or you have ache, you will be told “it’s all ter the mind”. This may very well be the case, but there is no help forthcoming from your playmate to assist you ter rectifying the situation, other than foolish suggestions that don’t work.
The Scientologists I have known always aim to succeed, rather than learn (they have to afford all those expensive books and courses). They’re keen to get ahead ter life, even if it means leaving you behind. Get out before you wake up next to a total stranger on a power tour, who will not be there for you if times get rough.